These tips are designed to help you to have a great time whilst reminding you of the importance to always use common sense to date safely.

We at Wheresmydate Limited take your security very seriously. The only information that other members will ever be able to access about you is the details that you have made available in your public profile. Wheresmydate Limited will never tolerate harassment between members and should this occur then all complaints would be dealt with immediately.


Every member has a �Block Sender� feature available in his or her message centre; please don�t be afraid to use it. If a member is blocked repeatedly then we will investigate and if they are in breach of the terms and conditions, their membership will be terminated.


The key thing to remember is that whilst most people are genuine there are some �not-so-nice� characters out there. We�re sure that you would be cautious with a person that you have just met in a bar or club and you should be just as cautious online. Whilst Wheresmydate Limited takes every practical precaution to ensure your safety the ultimate responsibility comes down to you.


Online Etiquette - Do unto others as you would have done unto you

The most important rule to always remember is to do unto others as you would have done unto you! Try to treat other people with respect at all times.

Always keep in mind that when communicating online the other person cannot see your facial expressions, your gestures or hear the tone of our voice. Be careful that your message is not misinterpreted due to humour failure. When you write in capital letters it gives the impression that you are shouting � is this the impression you wanted to give?

Your Profile � Don�t forget to be honest!

First impressions are lasting impressions. When creating your profile keep in mind the sort of person that you are hoping to attract and design it to appeal to them. One way of doing this is to look at what attracts you to other people�s profiles. It is really important to be honest if you are serious about developing a relationship. There is no point in giving somebody a misleading impression of yourself. Don�t be afraid to be honest about what you are looking for in a potential partner� if you don�t ask you don�t get.

Initiating contact

Making the initial contact is not always easy but it doesn�t have to be hard. Whilst we live in a fairly liberated world of equality, many people still find it awkward to make the first electronic move. Remember that what you say will create a lasting impression so try not to go into depth about why your past relationships have failed or why you don�t get on with your neighbour.

Try and find a common interest that you can ask questions about. For instance, if you are both keen on mountain climbing ask how the other person got into it and then tell them what first attracted you to it. Reread your message and if it is not something that you would be comfortable saying face-to-face then rewrite it!

Responding to messages

If you receive a message it is always polite to respond even if it is just a short message to say that you will read their profile and get back to them soon. If, once you have looked at the other persons profile, you do not feel that you would like to take things further then send a brief �thanks but no thanks� message.

Always remember that you are not obliged to give any more information than you are comfortable with. Make sure that you spend as much time communicating electronically as is necessary for you to feel comfortable enough to actually meet the person. Don't be pressured into meeting face to face before you are ready. If someone really wants to meet you, he or she will wait.

You are welcome to remain anonymous by using your �handle� or �user name� for as long as you like. If you do decide to give out your personal information, be selective. Do not reveal your name, address, phone number and living circumstances unless you are very confident about the person to whom you are sharing this information. Remember to go at your own pace and trust your intuition.

Also, like yourself, other members also have a life away from the computer and if they have not responded to a message immediately that does not always mean that you have been rejected. The reality could be that they have a great deal of work and/or personal commitments. If you find yourself in this situation then be patient and perhaps after a few days drop a quick note to say �hi'. If you do not hear back then let it go.

Getting out without offending

If you decide for whatever reason that you do not wish to communicate with a person anymore then tell them with a brief message. Nobody likes rejection so be gentle. Simply state that this is no longer a relationship that you would like to pursue but wish them well in their future searches.

Taking the next step - off-line

Once you feel comfortable enough then take the first step into off-line communications via a telephone conversation. If this goes well and you feel confident enough to meet someone for the first time make sure that you arrange to meet in a public place. Remember that your date is still a stranger regardless of how well you feel you know one another and this is in all senses of the word a �first� date.

Always tell a friend, flatmate or family member exactly what your plans are and arrange to call one of them when you get home from your date. If you have a mobile phone take it with you and perhaps have someone call you at a prearranged time just to check that everything is okay. This is also a great �out� if things are not going smoothly or if you are uncomfortable.

Either take your own transportation or make sure that you know what your options are in relation to public transport. Never rely upon your date to pick you up and take you home. If things are not going well then you are able to leave at any time.

Remember dating should be fun � so have a good time!

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